Daisho Con

OK, so here's the whole "roommate situation.

I lived with my Dad til he passed away. I kept the house and my boyfriend moved in. A couple of my friends (an engaged couple) got kicked out of the dude's mom's house, then they got kicked out of the apartment where they were staying with friends. They made up poopy about how it was the other people's fault, so i felt bad and let them move in.

Here's where it all turns to poopy. We had gotten into arguements b4, but worked them out in an almost-grown-up fashion. The 2nd or 3rd revolved around the fact that I had no car when they first moved in, and they were so "touched" that i let them stay in my house that they said if I needed a ride anywhere or needed to use their car, just let them know. I got a new job, needed a ride to work, and the female roommate proceeded to SCREAM at me the next day for "going behind her back and asking her fiance after she told me SHE couldn't give me a ride to work". She then began kissing my ass for a month straight so I wouldn't kick them out. (BTW one thing she was screaming was that they could find a better place for the $600/month we were charging them, the total rent for the house is $1500/month). This is about a month after they moved in.

So about 3 weeks of kissing ass later, the roomies go on vacation for a week. I rearranged MY office in which her computer desk was taking up too much space. It was a corner unit up against one wall. I moved it to the corner. The minute she walked in the door, no "hello's" no "how was ur week?", she immediately started in on me about moving her desk. The reason she didn't want it moved over 3 feet to the right was because it "doesn't FEEL right" and so she can't concentrate on her schoolwork, which she had procrastinated on for 3 weeks, (a term paper that was assigned the first week of may, due June 1st, they came home May 31st).

Needless to say I have drawn up eviction papers, talked to my landlord and prepared myself for a screaming match. No matter what, she will lose. My BF and I are sitting them down tonight to hand them the notice, I will let you know how it went.

Echo

Best of luck.

Hope it goes well without the police

Monkeybotz wrote:Hope it goes well without the police

Of course if it does involve police...call Monkeybotz and his handgun slinging Monkey!

ChAdam wrote:Of course if it does involve police...call Monkeybotz and his handgun slinging Monkey!

hmm... I will have to ask him but... well lets just say that he is not into actually shooting people, just random tin cans and the occasional bird (he is in therepy)

Monkeybotz wrote:

ChAdam wrote:Of course if it does involve police...call Monkeybotz and his handgun slinging Monkey!

hmm... I will have to ask him but... well lets just say that he is not into actually shooting people, just random tin cans and the occasional bird (he is in therepy)

Yeah, we all know Monkeybotz is working through some stuff...oh wait did I just let that slip? *cough* insane *cough*

*polishes sword*

hey come over here Night

No you aren't in the right. At least not as far as i can tell. I'm not going to reaffirm your belief in yourself without knowing both sides of the argument.

That said, your side has a strong case and I enjoy being a jerk.

Well, if you have to ask complete strangers just to validate your reasoning, you might want to rethink your strategy. We don't know anything about your life or the other people's side or anything to that affect at all.

From what you've given us, it's seems like you've inherited an entire house and filled it with friends who are paying a generous rent. It's true that they could find a smaller, yet more private place for less than $600 a month, but they're still staying here under the assumption that they can now share the house. You are under a different assumption, labeling public rooms as mine and theirs. You feel that your use of space is more important than your friends ability to write a major paper. I can empathize with her on some places not feeling right. Sometimes they're too claustrophobic when they're working in while facing a corner. You could offer to switch desks with her or help her sell her desk for a more space savvy one. Also, being engaged can put a lot of stress on a person's life. Add that to the multiple relocations they've undergone recently, and I can see how they might be short-tempered.

However, it's ultimately your house now, so if you don't want to put up with these people, then you don't have to.

I appreciate your honest opinion, Granolaman. I admit, I didn't see their perspective on the whole desk fiasco. We served them the papers tonight, and they informed me that they were already looking for a place of their own. I do see certain rooms as "mine" and "theirs", but I have tried to be as hospitable as I could, and still get nothing but grief from her.

I hope they find a place of their own, I really do. Not just for my sake, but for theirs. I worry, because they really were my friends, that if they move into another roommate situation, they may be faced with the same end for a 3rd or 4th time and I would really hate to see that happen.

I realize after all this our friendship is over, but I still don't wish any more hardship on them then what they have now. The main reason I asked for advice here is because by asking my friends, I will get bias answers. I really wanted an outside opinion, and am glad I got one.

Again, thanks for being honest

Echo

yeah but i agree with Echo.... their guests are paying less than half the rent... which means they are not entitled to everything that Echo and boyfriend are paying the majority for... they were invited there... you brought them in... i totally see your point echo

I don't see why a friendship has to end over the situation. If your willing to continue the friendship and they are why end it.(I don't know if anybody is). Friends fight and eventually get over it.

I agree with aminar people fight all the time it just gets tiring after a while to. so you were in a situation that was not beneficial to eachother in the end. change it and move on.

i think that is what they did guys.. sometimes you realize that you have to do what you have to do... you cant take people's crap all of the time.. i still agree with what he did

I would have loved to continue the friendship. I even told my boyfriend that I was going to help them pack and move, as I did last time. The girl proceeded to call me a b*tch about 17 times in ten minutes, and has been harrassing me since. The other, her fiance, has been avoiding us completely. He didn't even tell her to watch what she said when we told them to move out. He sat there and let her call me every name in the book. He is not the kind of friend I need.

One of her favorite ways to annoy me is telling me how I should have her clothes drycleaned because SHE decided to hang them in MY closet in MY room when she knew I smoked in there. Now her clothes are hanging in the kitchen, and in the way for everyone, because she refuses to put them away until I have them cleaned. She can go to hell.

My boyfriend has even had to adjust his sleep schedule so that he is sleeping when they are home. That's too much. He and I both work nights and aren't home until 7-730am. We should not have to change our sleep pattern to avoid being yelled at for petty things just because they are mad they have to move out.